I don’t mean chatting about what you had for lunch or what you’re going to watch on the box, but real conversations in which you genuinely share your plans, fears, and aspirations, and sort out your differences in an adult way.
If you do, it’s a strong sign of a healthy relationship, the kind that’s marked by open communication between the partners.
Should you find yourselves talking less and less or restricting yourselves to trivial topics, it should be a cause for concern. You may want to consider consulting a relationship counsellor. Auckland specialists are ready to help you start really communicating again.
Silence is Not Always Golden
A silent relationship is often one that’s been drained of all emotional connection. It suggests the partners don’t value each other enough to feel the need to share thoughts and feelings. Of course, that doesn’t mean that a noisy one is great. It depends on the quality of the communication.
Quality communication is marked by honesty. For this reason it can lead to conflict. This is healthy if it leads to an enhanced understanding. The fact is that negative issues will inevitably arise however much you’re in love. You are two different people. It’s how you deal with conflict and negativity that matters.
Unfortunately, today’s hectic lifestyles often mean we lack the time or energy to really open up to each other the way we used to. Preoccupied with our own agendas, we turn inward. We generally sense that our communication is not what it should be, but we resolve to deal with it another day.
The sad fact that is many relationships crash and burn before that day comes.
So what’s the answer?
Relationship Counselling: A Little Help from the Professionals
If you feel that you and your partner don’t talk often enough or about the things that matter, it might be time to seek couples counselling. Auckland professionals can help your identify any blockages in your relationship and help you regain your former intimacy.
Communication breakdown between couples happens for many reasons.
· If could be that you’ve reached an impasse, some kind of roadblock in your relationship that you’re too close to be able to clearly see and deal with.
· It could be that you have genuine issues that you’ve skirted about for too long. Now it’s time to deal with them before it gets too late.
· Maybe it’s just a matter of learning to talk to each other again.
For the above, a little help and guidance from a qualified counsellor can be just what you need to rekindle that need to share and know that once marked your relationship.
Once you rediscover the value of talking every day, you’ll begin to rediscover yourselves and your relationship will reach a whole new level.
On the other hand, it may be true that the relationship has withered beyond repair. If so, it’s better to find out sooner rather than later.
If you feel you could benefit from couples counselling, Auckland specialists are ready to help you. Get in touch today to arrange a consultation.